Dear Hush..

here's a quote for you,
from Picoult:)

"There are two kinds of love.
In the safe kind, you look for someone who's exactly like you. It's what most folks settle for.
But then there's the other kind of love. Everyone's born with a ragged edge, and some folks crave the piece that's a perfect fit. You'll search for it forever, if you have to. And if you're lucky enough to find it, it looks so right, you start to tear at your own seams, [changing yourself for him]. But then, of course, when you try to get close to their other half, you don't fit anymore.
That kind of love.....you come out of it a different person than you were when you started."

maybe what seemed like ''the perfect fit'' to us...was not really so.
maybe it is safer to look for someone who's like us. someone whom we can understand, whom we can predict.
someone who deserves us.

:)